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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I am curious about what length PPs are willing to go to "make" their child sit at the table…we deal with this with our child with other behaviors and she does not like being physically held or restrained and now is too big to be carried around places or taken to her room physically.  She is strong.  I don't like to engage physically so what do you all mean by "make" your child sit at the dinner table.  I can't do this.  Threats?  Taking away privileges?  None of this seems to work.  Sorry to get off topic but I was struck by how easy some PPs make it out to be...[/quote]

I tell my kids. If they don't do what I said, I make sure they understand it was not an offer, but a command. I don't understand people who can't make their kids do things without physically manhandling them. By the time my kids are two they are given, "Either you can get in the chair, or I will put you in the chair. Which do you want?" If they say neither, they are sent to their bedroom and told they can come out when they're ready to get in the chair. By the age of three they are given "Either you can get in the chair, or go to your room alone; which do you want?"

If my kids want to go to their room to have a temper tantrum they can go do that alone without disturbing the rest of the family. The kids do not get to stop the flow of the whole household. [/quote]

So, your kid chooses to go to their room (and presumably, misses dinner). Then what? Stays there all night? Then what? Can they come out of their room in the morning? What happens next? I'm intrigued by this power play you have set up. [/quote]

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