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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]OP, I didn't grow up in your family, but the idea of spending the Christmas holiday squeezed into one room with my kid (and I only have one) sharing a bathroom with seven other people, at least one of whom really doesn't get along with me very well, sounds like painful, extended torture.

It sounds like you both tried it out together for several years and your sister couldn't take it and started having Christmas at her own house or her in laws for several years while you continued to spend Christmas at your parents?  And now maybe your sister is wanting to have her kids and herself spend Christmas at your parents but she isn't willing to do it with four people to a room and 8 to a bathroom.

I don't know what the real beef between you and your sister is.  Sounds like you are accustomed to sucking it up and you think she is spoiled and a bit of a prima donna.  And you're incensed at your mom accommodating her pickiness yet again without her even having to argue for what she wants or defend it to you.

Did you tell your mom that your preference would be to continue to have Christmas at her house, or did you just sort of indicate that you'd accept the rotation schedule?

I understand your point of view and I get that you want to have everyone in three rooms.  It's just so contrary to how I think of Christmas -- crammed on top of one another, cranky, absolutely non-relaxed and the opposite of jolly, having to poo practically on a timetable! -- that I'm inherently sympathetic to your sister.  I'm sorry.  I'm an introvert, and all that time piled on top of one another without a way for me to recharge alone would make me totally crazy.  Like, walk off in a huff because I had to poo and all the bathrooms were occupied crazy.

Question:  Would your families ever consider a destination Christmas at a bigger, rented house?  We are doing this for Thanksgiving in Connecticut this year.  Maybe you guys could get an amazing rate on, like, a big beach house for the holiday, if you could afford that?  If the problem is really mostly the space, then moving everyone to a bigger, neutral one might solve that.  But of course, your sister would have to talk to you about her issues in order to sort that out.  Good luck![/quote]

This. 
I also agree that the op should not have to get a hotel. The sister is the one unhappy, let the sister get a hotel.

Good luck op, you have more patience than I. If my family did this I would probably say screw yall then and head to the beach for new traditions. [/quote]

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