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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]It depends on how close you are to the family and how much you are comfortable with giving, but anywhere from $25 to $75 would be fine as a gift (some relatives or close friends may choose to give more). $50 was very typical at my son's bar mitzvah, and he got plenty of $25 gifts; the more expensive ones tended to be from people who were long-time close friends of the family.  You can give a gift card or a non-monetary gift if you would prefer that to giving money.  The value of the guests' company and presence as we celebrated this milestone was what was important, and I certainly couldn't remember who gave gifts of what amount, other than remembering a few very generous ones from close family.

We're Jewish and tend to give gifts in multiples of $18 at bar/bat mitzvahs and when giving to charity[b] (a tradition based on the fact that the Hebrew word for "life" adds up to 18, because Hebrew letters are also numbers)[/b]. However, it isn't typical for non-Jews to give gifts in multiples of $18 and you certainly don't need to unless you want to.  So if you want to buy a gift card that exists already, those tend to be in multiples of $10 or $25 and that would be fine.[/quote]

I was curious about the significance of "18" so glad someone explained that after like 20 posts....

So, if as a gentile not knowing anything about the rule of 18, if I gave $35 to a classmate of my child's who he knows only at school ( no outside of school socializing ) , but we both attended the service and only him the party then I cam pretty close without having a clue ???[/quote]

Then you are going to hell.[/quote]

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