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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]So you don't raise your child Jewish b/c of a bar mitzvah? Ridiculous.  Have a small luncheon of something simple at the temple afterward - a nice oneg.  [/quote]

More accurately, PP is not raising their child Jewish because of the bar mitzvah PARTY. Which is not actually a religious requirement.[/quote]

I'm the original Pp who said this is why I'm not raising my children jewish--it was in response to the person who said you couldn't possibly throw a decent party for under 10k. It's that snooty attitude that I'm trying to stay away from.  Not that all Jews act or talk like that, but the whole ridiculious bar mitzvah/bat mitzvah scene is absolutely about being showy and ostentatious. Sure you could have a low key affair with just cake and no DJ party after the service, but at what social cost to your child who is invited to these fancy shin digs and can't live up to the others or reciprocate?

My family were poor immigrants in the 70s and tried to join a synagogue and were turned away because they could not afford it. Our family is not the only ones who had experienced this, we have heard similar stories, so forgive me if it leaves a bad taste in my mouth towards this religion (and most religions, actually). I know now they have "scholarships" for families who can't afford them, but why all the money anyway? Why is belonging to a synagogue about fees/money and tickets? [/quote]

I am sorry you had such a negative experience.  That truly came at a cost.  You now think that Jews are focused on money and parties when this simply is not the case for a lot of Jews.  If you had gone to a nice synagogue and received a proper Jewish education, your point of view would be entirely different.  It is a shame that you let this one experience take you away from a warm, generous and vibrant community.  [/quote]

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