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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]The "hysterical sex" thing sounds a little like the kid who ignores the toy for awhile but then discovers she is really interested in it when she discovers another kid wants to play with the toy. [/quote]

OP here.  The thing is, we were having very regular and good sex while the affair was going on.  We were having actual sex at least four times a week plus additional fooling around, and I am actually very sexually open and willing to expand my horizons so to speak because I was super excited to get my sex drive back after it being AWOL for a bit.  So I was very willing to try whatever new things he suggested and I also had new things I wanted to do and that he seemed very happy about (maybe this is TMI for this forum, but I suggested new positions, wore sexy outfits that went along with whatever fantasy he would mention, sent him risque pictures, etc.).  And the thing is, I WANTED to do that for him and for me because I was really enjoying it.  That's one of the things that really bothers me, actually.  That I have been going through this kind of sexual renaissance for the past couple of years and he is getting probably the best sex of our relationship and that I don't want to lose steam and feel defeated and go back to my old low drive self.  I am also in the best shape of our relationship so I feel much less self-conscious than before.

Also, as I mentioned, it really bothers me that he would have sex with me and be intimate with the other woman on the same day.  It's not like he was deprived at home.  At all.  So it's not like I was ignoring a toy until someone was using it.  I was using it all of the time already.[/quote]

Until and unless he truly discovers and discusses what happened during the affair, I think your non-judgmental attitude is very appropriate. Did he disclose how and why the affair ended? That would tell a lot about the situation and your options.[/quote]

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