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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Here's my take, OP. In HS and college you were given a specific path. Follow this path, work hard, and you are a success. But after school the path ends and you come to a big wide field where you have to make your own way with no formula to follow. This is where a lot of people (in their early 20s) run into crisis, but then they try a bunch of things, right their ship and figure it out. 
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OP I can totally relate about being at one's peak performance in high school.  For me I had my peak performance in college/grad school, around the ages of 21-25.  I'm in my late 30s now, and feel like it's all been downhill from there, both professionally and socially.  I am wistful for the days when I had so many options for my future career--I could go to grad school in any number of fields, try out different jobs, etc. before settling on one career path.  I also totally relate to what the poster wrote above about having a path to follow through high school and college, and then many people having difficulty with the lack of a path after college.  I did well in high school and college, but then really had no direction at all in terms of career.  I tried a bunch of different jobs, went to grad school twice (and graduated with two different masters), and still never found my path.  Even in my late 30's I never really had a career (just a series of jobs, and always underemployed).  Now I'm a SAHM, which makes the most sense given that I was always underemployed and had no career.  So at least you have found a good career where you were not underemployed.

I have finally been successful in creating a social life/sense of community for myself and my family.  I worked hard at it, joining lots of moms groups and reaching out to people a lot.  I had no social circle or any friends at all when we moved here in my early 30s from out of state, and finally I feel like I do have friends and a sense of community here.  I would recommend joining meetup, volunteering, and finding a book club or other hobby and meeting people that way.  [/quote]

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