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[quote=Anonymous]I agree with you OP, and want to add that you should probably ignore and move on from this one, but be prepared to nicely step in and make some boundaries of it progresses.

For example, my MIL was very whiny, begging my kids at preschool and toddler ages to "tell Grandma you love me, say I love you Grandma" over and over, before they really could even say it correctly, make them repeat it, over and over, then get out her cell phone video so she could record it, then getting upset when it wasn't right on the video.

It goes along with forcing hugs, sitting on laps, etc, whichever can be normal and loving, but like you pointed out it is hard to get the nuance and intent on written form like this. It IS different when a MIL is forcing a kid on her lap who is crying to get away, can feel shame and guilt from Grandma and gets anxious about interacting and parents need to deal with that.

In my case, we had to have a conversation about not whining and begging the kids to visit her vacation home that we are not planning on traveling to (for a variety of reasons). "Oh now Pookie, Grandma is going to be so sad if you don't come visit. I have toys for you and will cry if you don't come. Don't you want to see the orange tree I have? We can pick oranges every morning ." Not cool to do to a 5 year old who is not going to get to go[/quote]

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