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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I must agree with the P.P.'s who have stated that a ten-year award of alimony was excessive, based on the facts the O.P. has provided to us here.

Couple the age of the ex-wife with the short duration of their childless marriage, and a three-year award of "rehabilitative alimony" should have been the maximum given.  Maybe only a one-year, or two-year award.

A ten-year award is either punitive for the O.P., or based on some sort of special circumstances which we haven't been made aware of (i.e., she was disabled, or became disabled during the course of the marriage). [b]She was not disabled in any way. She refused to work full time. She was encouraged and asked to repeatedly. Encouraged to take courses to upgrade her education. At the time, she was working part time 3 hrs a day for a school earning $150 per week. There were opportunities for her to advance to other full time positions and she flat out refused. Money was a huge source of contention in the marriage. She wanted to live on less and put forth less effort and control me down to the penny. I mean getting shit for buying a gatorade. 
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Based on the facts we've been provided, I'm not sure that a ten-year award of spousal support would have survived an appellate challenge.

Did the ten-year period come out of a judicial determination? [/b]no[b]

Or, did you agree to it, as one part of an overall settlement? [/b]My ex, and her attorney flat out refused to negotiate or communicate. My attorney chased her attorney for nearly two years, until it came to us forcing a court date before a judge. They pulled every trick in the book. Not showing up to court dates. Not replying to phone calls or email correspondence. Her lawyer would literally not reply to mine. So when the final court date arrived, it went before the judge and the judge was pissed that nothing had been negotiated up to this point. He demanded that we all to go to a mediation room and come to some agreement. So we did. All parties were present at first. The attorneys, hers and mine, started getting frustrated because my ex kept interjecting with little gems like how she couldn't understand why I don't have to pay her for life, even if she gets remarried. So the attorneys asked us to leave. They negotiated and came to a settlement and presented it to us. My attorneys basically advised me to take it. Because it would have gotten dragged out forever. They said it was a whole lot better than what my ex was originally asking for. I felt stuck and frustrated and like I had no other option.[b]

Did the $50K attorneys ever suggest an appeal of the 10 -year award? [b]This was never suggested by my attorney[/b]

In which state did this occur? [/b]California[b]

Something isn't adding up here, although the suggestions of conducting a cost-benefit analysis, for determining how to go forward, should still hold.[/quote] [/b]it doesn't add up to me either, and never has[b][/quote]

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