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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]First - You aren't Indian so you can't properly take care of her DS. Second - She had to make sure you are raising her grandkids right bc you aren't Indian.  Duh. How have you not figured that out?  [/quote]
She's not Indian, that's how  :D 
Yes, like I said before - they are deliberately keeping an eye on her. They know she is not comfortable with this schedule and workload and are probably not enjoying their visits very much. But they are determined to do their duty.[/quote]

OP here. Thank you guys! I finally understand why they keep visiting. THIS explanation makes total sense based on how my MIL acts towards me and I don't know why I didn't think of it before. Now that I understand the reason for the frequent visits, can you give me some advice on how to decrease them? Thanks [/quote]
Be unavailable. If they come on weekends, schedule activities as a (nuclear) family - parks, hikes, museums, sports events. Look at the weather we are having - it's a crime to stay inside!
Your husband could also take the kids to visit his parents, save them the drive. You don't have to go.

Seriously though, given your relationship with in-laws, you need to address this issue with your husband so he can push back on the visits. [/quote]

Is it culturally acceptable though to 'be unavailable' when they come over? My inlaws just want to spend the whole day with my kids and my MIL is a total homebody and often stays inside the house all day. I get away to 'run errands' by myself when I can, but they give me a guilt trip when I take my kids out by myself for activities like the park or library just once all weekend! My husband also tells me to have the kids spend as much time as possible with their grandparents when they visit. [/quote]

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