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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Speaking as an adoptive mom, would everyone lay off the aunt?

She is doing right by the child in her care. It is a kinship adoption, which is different in so many ways from other kinds of adoption (such as mine -- international, semi-open).

I vehemently disagree with the PP who suggested looking into a private adoption -- it's awesome that your niece/daughter is able to be cared for within her family of origin, and it's a terrible idea to consider a private adoption on the basis of -- what, exactly? That her parent isn't sentimental about motherhood and prioritizes her child's development (e.g. speech delays) over adoption-friendly language. 
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I am the adoptive mom who suggested private adoption for the aunt.

crappy biological family who thinks you are worthless and treats you like crap doesn't trump a loving adoptive family who supports a continued relationship with the biological family. The aunt can find that throug private adoption.

Adopted or not, a child who grows up with a mother who has the attitude " you aren't special to me. I had to take you in - no one else wanted you" - is sadly just doomed to a childhood of low self esteem.

Like I said not everyone is cut out to be an adoptive parent and the aunt is clearly one of those people. She can place the child privately and when questioned by people she knows the simple answer is her biological mother choose an adoptive placement for the child and there was nothing she could do bc the biological mother has the right to make that choice. Whether the statement is true or not doesn't matter.[/quote]

What are you talking about?  Aunt seems like a great mom - she just isn't prepared for all the questions.  Is this about your need and the demand for young kids for adoption or something else as it makes no sense.[/quote]

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