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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]OP here - thank you for everyone's thoughtful responses!  While I agree with everyone's posts (the grass is always greener, be grateful, our home is big relative to other homes around the world), I do think it can be a struggle, even for an adult, to maintain that positive attitude if most people we know or encounter have bigger homes.  Our home is fine, but it would be nice to have more space to entertain or another full bath.  Also, I wonder if it would be worth it to move to a more affordable area so that we can feel more or less average, as opposed to being on the lower end of the income spectrum in our neighborhood and school.  [/quote]

OP, I think this may be [i]your[/i] small-house dilemma (and feelings of inadequacy), not your children's.[/quote]

OP, it's really important to project self confidence in these matters. Kids pick up on our insecurities and we don't want our insecurities to become theirs.[/quote]

When I was in middle (junior high) school, I wanted to live in a beautiful neighborhood across town.  We even toured one of the homes at the time, which was new and had a swimming pool inside.  I remember it was $100,000, which was more like $850,000 today.  We lived in a small duplex in a working class (now middle class) neighborhood.  I begged my parents to move and could not understand why we couldn't move to a nicer neighborhood.  My parents didn't really respond or mostly ignored me.  Years later when I was an adult and my parents were long ago divorced, my mother told me she was in an unhappy marriage and didn't want her money tied up in an expensive house with my father, who didn't make as much money as her.  After they divorced my mother bought a nice house in a really nice neighborhood that she could afford on her own.  I had renewed respect for her and was glad she did not bow to pressure from me or anyone else.  She was able to put me through college and not be stressed with a big house note.  OP, you should stay and raise your kids in a house you can afford.  My DH and I live in a nice house in an affluent area that we bought at a good price before the prices skyrocketed.  I see folks buying home in the neighborhood for 2 and 3 million and am so relieved we bought when we did because we couldn't afford to now and I like to sleep at night.[/quote]

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