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Bottom line is she doesn't feel safe with him.  Why do people have such a hard time trusting women to make their own decisions? My DH has driven aggressively before but I never felt that it was his attempt to scare me or my kids.  OP knows what she saw and felt.  No one is saying he should go to jail, but why should she stay with her husband if she doesn't feel safe with him?  A lot has to happen to feel unsafe.  She wants help dealing with a situation where she fears for the safety of her and her child, not to be told that her fears are unfounded because "omg road rage happens to everyone". [/quote]

Because I've had my wife overreact to my driving when, while it was certainly an expression of anger that she would have rathered I not feel or express, was not remotely dangerous. I have no way of knowing whether she honestly felt scared or, instead, was pretending to be scared because she wanted to express disapproval and control my behavior but knew that saying "I don't want you to feel or express anger" would not have been well taken.

You could say that "a woman would never, ever express being scared unless she was legitimately and rationally scared," but that would be a false statement. [/quote]

NP here, so you are saying you have gotten angry at your wife in the car based on her reaction to your driving, and therefore drove more dangerously in anger? You are def bringing your own issues and trying to justifying being pretty shitty if your kids were in the car. [b]Intentionally trying to scare someone with your driving[/b] in reaction to complaints about your driving is so unhealthy dude, why you have to come here and assume OP is lying to suit your own agenda is sick[/quote]

Not the PP, but frankly I drive faster when I am angry. Hear rate up, adrenaline pump, I wouldn't call it intentional.[/quote]

Do you think that is what the original post describes? cause it sounds like intending to strike fear in the passenger who dared to question his driving[/quote]

Who knows? Some days I have lots of time so I drive calmly, wait in the lane as people are slow, etc. Other days I am more aggressive and change lanes a lot to get ahead. But the second type of driving isn't necessarily more dangerous or more frightening. I'm also terrified of driving done by DC cabbies, but they aren't intentionally trying to kill me (I think). [/quote]

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