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I don't think you are looking for effective approaches but instead just want to vent.

At first it seemed like both the new SIL and her boys were the problem.  Now it seems that you and your nieces are actually fond of the SIL but not her boys.

And it seems that you will continue to include your in-laws family at your family's get togethers anyway, regardless of the new nephews' rude manners, even though your new SIL will boldly defend them.

It is obvious that you fear that you will upset your DH and his brother.   So, it looks like you all will just have to cater to your new nephews' rude behavior and fast food requests since you don't actually intend to set much needed and healthy boundaries since you are the host of these invitations.  I feel sorry for your dad.[/quote]

I was venting yes. Thats why in the OP I said I know I can't do anything about this. And was asking how you deal when its none of your business.

I am fond of my SIL but the way she has raised her sons is disrupting our family. I can stop inviting them to family things, but I think that would be pretty rude and kind of mean.

I don't fear my DH or BIL or fear upsetting them. DH and I have set boundaries. If we enforce them it ends in tears and being told we aren't including the boys. I have thanked posters here for their advice and said I will give it try, not sure what else I can do. That was the point of the vent. We have done everything to welcome them, accommodate them, include them, set boundaries, explain rules. It always turns to tears and a screaming match.

Why do you feel sorry for my dad? [/quote]

Your heart is in the right place in inviting them.  The dynamics of this family have changed A LOT and you are in unchartered territory now.  I think it would be a great idea to have the boys poker night and let your dh and his brother work on setting these boys straight.  At the very least, your dh and BIL will see with their own eyes what you have been contending with. That's important.[/quote]

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