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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]OP, here.  These are some examples:

-Invited her sister to stay in our house while we were out of town without asking me.  Then proceeded to spruce up the place to make it suitable for her sister.  She bought a lamp.  Put up temporary shades.  Previously she would make comments about the lack of window treatments in the guest room/bathroom.

-Left her unruly un-neutered male dog with us repeatedly to go on vacation.  For weeks at the time without asking me.  He has destroyed two doors in our house.   Ran away.  Tries to attack our friends.  The list goes on.  Most recently she left the dog when I was nine months pregnant.  I only found out about the plan when she mentioned it in a speaker phone call.

-Says things to my husband like "we need to figure out the holidays."  They then proceeded to plan a trip to Colorado for Christmas without asking me, which forced me not to spend any part of the holidays with my family.  I am an only child.  We even flew to Colorado on my grandfather's 80th birthday, so I had to miss his party.  I didn't know about the plan until she dropped the bomb on a speaker phone call.  Then in Colorado, she planned activities that forced me to drag a five-month-old out in single digit/negative degree weather.  Then made comments about my bundling him up.  I had no say in the activities for my baby's first Christmas at all.

-Thanksgiving we spent with both families at a centrally located rental.  The plan (or so I thought) was for MIL, my mother, and me to split up dinner preparations at the house.  Instead, she rolled in with a whole Thanksgiving dinner that she prepared at home in coolers.

-Same Thanksgiving she physically removed the baby from my mother when my mother was putting him down for a nap.  MIL swept him off to her room and rocked him for an hour.

-Blowups have been first in Colorado when she exposed the baby to lead by putting up Christmas lights that bore a lead warning on the box. When I said something to her, my husband sided with her and the ILs made a big display of leaving.

-I tried to apologize to her for the misunderstanding about the lead.  I flew to see her.  Instead of talking to me rationally, she told me all the things she didn't like about me.  Including that I was rude because I didn't cook for them when they visited (even though I was working 50 hours per week, they would visit at the worst possible times, and give me no notice).   My personal favorite was telling me that I was rude because I didn't participate in previous Christmas Eve dinner because I was pregnant and naseous.  Also, said that she had to do things in our house (see bullet 1) because I "never lift a finger to do anything."  Also said I bought her nice gifts to show off and get attention.

-At Easter, I hosted and cooked and tried to correct for all of her complaints about my domesticity.  Then she claimed to my husband that I was rude and excluding her by not letting her help.  Why would I after what she said about me?

-Today I saw a text from her telling my husband that all she wanted for Mother's Day was a picture of him and my son.   Clear implication that she didn't want a family picture with me in it.  No pictures of me on her Facebook either.  I was livid, so I called her up and let her have it.   [/quote]

No hope.  Divorce now while there is still time and be more careful about MIL next time[/quote]

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