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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]My husband and I had agreed to not have children. We had been married for a few years when I got pregnant. I was regularly taking birth control and didn't refill my prescription on time. I was off BC for about 3 weeks and during that time I got pregnant. When I told my husband- he took it all in stride (or so I thought), and was the supportive, caring man I always knew him to be. Even after the baby came,  he has continued to be an attentive,  hands on dad. I know he loves our son very much.  I thought we had just adapted to this new change in our lives,  and surprisingly- I am enjoying being a parent a lot more than I thought I would. He seems to enjoy it too but misses the freedom we had.

He recently told me he is really angry and resentful about this lifestyle change. He feels like he was never part of the decision. At the point we found out- I asked him for his opinion on keeping the baby or not- and he told me the decision was all mine. He says he is angry that I was irresponsible.

We have been having some challenges in our marriage and this explains a lot of why. I told him I hear him- and understand. I just don't know how you fix this. [/quote]

You just forgot to refill your prescription, OP?

Your DH seems to have been a true mensch about the whole thing, even now in being honest about his feelings. You need to acknowledge his feelings, OP. There's nothing wrong in what he said. You didn't mention any cruelty or neglect. He's taken up the responsibilities you'd agreed to spare each other by not having children. I'd buy the guy a beer and allow him to mourn a bit before asking how he now looked toward the future.
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