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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I think the husband brought this up in July because he wants to discuss it early and not at the last minute. If part if the family is Christian and part is Jewish, it seems reasonable for the members to celebrate their religious holidays in their own home. This young woman is a part in this family and needs to feel and know that she is not a second-class daughter because only one of the adults is biologically her parent. An eighteen year old is legally an adult, but still has a lot of growing up to do and still needs the love of her parents. 
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i recognize this is a difficult situation but to those who suggest compromise via placing the tree in her room, well that's just not what a christmas tree is. it is sort of like saying put the menorah on the seat of your car. all religious symbols come along with certain context and the tree is a gathering place of sorts, a thing to be admired ... and it is quite beautiful. I do understand that maybe Christians have more leeway to accept Jewish traditions in their house given that Christianity is such a dominant religion but as a Christian, in all honesty, I've never quite understood the tree phobia. Seriously, I would understand not wanting to take kids to mass, not wanting strong religious messages but this is just a festive holiday tree. I say this not critically, just genuinely confused. O

In this particular situation, one possible compromise would be a smaller tree in the living room, one that doesnt require moving furniture.[/quote]

Sorry, I was not suggesting that the tree be in her own [i]room[/i], but [i]home[/i]. She is as much a part of this family as any other member and needs to be treated as such. This home is now her home. It is important that she not feel like a visitor or an interloper in what should be her own home.
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