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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]And overall, I wish people were less promiscuous.

I look at a 26 year old who I have known since childhood. College graduate, so so job.

So far this woman has lived with two men, had at least 15 partners since the age of 15. Two STDs one requiring surgery. Around the time of the surgery, not one "Boyfriend" around. Even if they were around, they could do nothing for her since none of them have a thing to offer her. She is becoming more and more cynical at such a young age. 
She told me that she wanted marriage, but in her world, that is almost a dirty word. She believed that if she uttered words like that to the men she dated, they would have run away. I suggested that she feel less ashamed of the M word and to treat herself well.

I am in healthcare and I see the burden of complications of sexual activity placed squarely on women. The worst thing is that many of these women have little to show for it.

I sometimes think that if more women held back and made greater demands from their partners things would change. I wish more women would be honest with themselves about what they really want.

Just a ramble, but don't want to see my dd who is just 10 in the same mess. [/quote]

You worry about you.

Your post is patently offensive. This notion that they should have something to show for having sex is sexist, misogynistic, and disgusting. Shame on you.[/quote]

And you worry about YOU. You clearly misread (or, more likely, projected your own distorted thoughts) onto OP's post. This friend [b]WANTS marriage and stability[/b].[/quote]

Sometimes what people really want and what they convey are patently different.  My guess is that when this person truly feels the need to settle down, it will happen.

As for the STD she got that needed surgery - sounds like HPV.  It's almost unavoidable if you are dating, and there's no screening test for men.  So you can be completely careful and still get it.[/quote]

Correction. It is almost unavoidable if you are having [i]sex with multiple partners, outside of a committed relationship[/i].  In other words, behaving in a promiscuous manner. That has nothing to do with "dating."[/quote]

My aunt was wild in the 80s - partied at Studio 54, had a lot of boyfriends, lot of fun, etc.

She settled down with a man she put through law school, who was gay and was cheating on her.  This was during the height of the AIDS epidemic, and she was scared shitless.

After the divorce, she met and married my uncle who is an amazing man who turned out to be a sex addict.  He was cheating on her over 20 years, and she was faithful.  He gave her herpes.

So please.. shut the hell up.  [/quote]

I'm sorry, but I fail to see what your one little story about your fun-loving aunt has to do with facts about general human nature.[/quote]

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