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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Op here.

I volunteered to take him into my home and pay a nurse to care for him. As per my sister, she is available to take care of him. She didn't want me to take him so she assumed responsibility. Maybe I'm as asshole got this but she wanted to keep him from my care, so she can have him and care for him. If she can't, she should revisit letting him live with me. I could pay a nurse 1500 per week but I will not pay 7k for him to be in a home at my sisters insistence. She only wants him to be in her city and not here. [/quote]

So let's recap.  You are willing to pay 6-7k if he is in your house, but you don't want to pay 7k to put him in a home.  So it's not the money at all, it's a who's in charge issue.  Because it's annoying that she perceives she's in charge and you have to foot the bill.  (I get that.)  Also, she is probably annoyed that you perceive you can dictate unilaterally what will happen because you have the money when she's been the one there with him.  You clearly have issues with your sister that need to be sorted out.

What is best for your dad?  Forget about you and your sister for a minute and whatever long-standing issues you have with each other.[/quote]

I get why the sister is annoyed, but she needs to get over it.  The person who is tasked with paying $84k per year for nursing home care DOES get to unilaterally dictate where that money is spent.  It's just a fact of life.  [/quote]

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