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[quote=Anonymous]OP, some more things to think about:

How will your kids fare on their own with an emotionally closed-off parent.

He may remarry.  He can remarry whomever he wants even if you don't agree and think she is a bad influence on your children.

If you remarry, you will likely need to be a stepmother, possibly with a lot of custody of the step-kids, and have a positive parenting relationship with your new H's ex.  How do you feel about that, and about putting your kids through that?  It can be pretty tough, and a ton of work, I think, even under the best of circumstances.

Let's think about when you are old:

Less grandparent time.

Less time with your own children, which will really matter as you start to rely on them more and more in your 80s.

The hard part for your children doesn't stop when they grow up.  It's hard when they have families of their own.  And it will be especially hard for them to juggle two aging parents in two separate locations.  My dad has a lot of medical issues, and his new wife is even sicker, so I am his Next of Kin and primary care manager.  My mom's reasons for divorce were totally valid, but in my darker moments I really resent that she left me to deal with him on my own.

Make the phone call, OP.  You will feel better if you can look your children in the eye and say you truly tried everything.

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