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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I assume your friend no longer excludes people because they don't like the Exact Same Bands, is only 5'11", needs to make $200k, is three years older, etc.

No, women don't deserve some guy who asks for nudes in line 4 of a conversation or who cant stoo going on about their demon ex from six years ago. But after 30, if you are serious about marriage, a serious examination of priorities and the such is needed. [/quote]

You speak truth here. I have a good friend who is attractive, intelligent and funny. She is 35 and wants to get married, have kids. She has been doing online dating for about 10 years off and on. She desperately wants to find someone great, and she deserves someone great, but she has expectations that are skewed away from reality.

She has very key, limiting specifics for every category (e.g., musts = Catholic, 5'11+, advanced degree, holds job in one of a few specific career fields, never engaged or married, no kids, wants 3+ kids, no more than three years older than her, etc.) and thus, her pool of potential men, within these parameters, is very, very small. She is a great girl, but she is rigid with her must have list, that it counts out probably 90% of people out there. She says she knows that what she wants is limiting, but she doesn't think she should have to compromise. I get it, but I think she will be online for a good deal longer if she doesn't change at least one or two criteria.

I think people who are this rigid just aren't ready for a relationship and the compromises it entails.  It's one thing to say he must be catholic, as that goes to a lot of things - how kids will be raised, shared family values, etc. (for example, I probably couldn't marry a practicing catholic because I would want to argue with him all the time).  But above 5'11"?  Stupid criterion.  That goes to nothing.  Sometimes there's a reason people are single.  Part of being mature is learning what is actually important and what isn't.

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