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OP, you sound great.  But I grew up with alcoholic parents and have a lot of dysfunctional relatives and truly you will drive yourself crazy if you let them have so much of this headspace.

One thing that *might* help is if you do something like see if you can schedule a regular call or Skype session with your MIL...and or SIL.  Like, every other Thursday night the cousins will Skype or something.  Very, very clear definitions of when you will call.

But really, just to calibrate your sense of normalcy -- [b]I have never once, not once called my SIL just to chat.  She's not my sister, we live states apart, we're not friends, why would I call her for anything?  Her brother, who has a relationship with her, can call her.[/b]  I think it's great when some people are better friends with their IL's but, honestly, your reactions and your frequency of communication sound totally sane and fine.  The big lesson here is that YOU CANNOT MAKE THEM HAPPY.  There is literally no level of communication that would make them not complain about you in some way.  Literally, none.  They are going to complain about you because they are unhappy people and they need a scapegoat.  You are an IL so you are an easier target.  That's just the way it's going to be.  Please, please try not to let it eat you up.[/quote]

OP here- this is exactly it. This is how I've operated since we got married. I would never call my BIL because I have nothing to talk with him about. I don't even call my own brother! 
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