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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]OP, I have a cousin who has sent me allcaps irate messages on FB because I didn't reply to his "Hi" in Messenger sometimes.  Or even just an emoticon.  Seriously.  I get hundreds of email messages a day, dozens of personal things, plus FB...and you're pissed off that I didn't reply back to your smiley wink?

Not coincidentally, he is also an alcoholic.  He gets lonely at night and maybe he sees I'm on FB and takes it personally, like I'm personally snubbing him when he says hi to me in a room or something.

My SIL also deactivated her FB account because she was so furious at me for "liking" some but not all of her pictuers.  I kid you not.  She apparently had some very detailed sense of an algorithm for why I would like some but not others...she thought I never liked ones with just her in it, usually only liked ones with my older nephew, who knows.  She just went ballistic about it one day.  (She also does not talk to me now for other reasons....and she struggles with English and has borderline personality disorder or something...truly unstable.)

Anyway, I share all this stuff to say that some people are totally nuts about FB.  I have ADD and can't even remember half of the texts I get once a few more come in.  There's no way I'm replying to every "hi" I get randomly with no other context.  And if that sends people off the deep end, that can't be on me.

I hope you can let this go.  Your husband sounds AWESOME.  Please don't feel like you need to adjust yourself to these people.  They've got a sick dynamic as a family. Your DH is wise to steer clear.  You do, too.[/quote]

OP here- wow, that sounds very familiar! I've struggled over the emoticon and "hello" FB messages from him- should I respond or not?- but when I respond to them, they become ENDLESS. The twin BILs are (1) an alcoholic and (2) a recovering alcoholic who hasn't had a drink in 10+ years, so that dynamic is definitely in effect. FB is very serious for them and they have definitely taken my responses or lack of responses personally. The only two people I've ever blocked on FB share my last name, which is just sad. [/quote]

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