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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]OP, what do you think she sees in you? At her age I never would have given a 40 y.o. a second look, frankly, so I'm curious. You need to have a very, very strong connection to make such an age gap work these days, and she is so very young to really know her own heart and mind. If you really love her, I would hope you would give her lots of time to make sure she's making the right decision.[/quote]

OP here: Yes. I’ve pondered that one myself. When I’ve asked her about that there are three themes that I’ve been able to identify. (1) She states that she likes that I’m “serious.” I take that to means that she appreciates that I’m serious-minded or thoughtful. (2) She states that she feels comfortable with me and “safe.” (3) She says that, in retrospect, she is able to distinguish a distinct improvement in how I approach and treat her compared to past relationships. These are reasons outside of the physical attraction arena. [/quote]

These all scream "father figure" to me.[/quote]

+1. OP, when a woman that much younger tells you that you make her feel "safe," she is really saying that she is not confident in herself and her decisions (probably because of the past failures in relationships you mentioned) and you are ... easy. She doesn't think she's going to have to work as hard to keep you interested in her and she doesn't fear that you will leave her. That's a nice thing, I guess, but I also think that it is based on "feeling safe with daddy" rather than feeling like she has built your respect and trust as an adult.

I'd be very careful with this. You could end up broke and very hurt.[/quote]

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