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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]What does she want in the future?  Kids?  The social dynamics are very weird.  Most adults still hang out with adults of roughly the same age.  People will make assumptions about you and most of them are not positive.  Get used to waiters assuming she's out with her dad.

I have a good friend whose parents had a 20+ year age gap.  The parents seemed socially isolated and her mother had to basically stop her life for years to take care of her father.

I can see what's in it for you, but I can't see what's in it for your partner...[/quote]
He must be very wealthy .. Otherwise why would she be interested[/quote]

OP here.... oddly enough over the past few years of I've found the older women I've dated (38 +) to be more overtly interested in money. Frequently point blank asking questions about annual income, net worth (including balance in retirement accounts and savings accounts), etc. I've found it somewhat disturbing at times. [/quote]

Hear me out, OP:

By the time women reach mid-30s and are still unmarried, but are looking to marry men their age or a little older, their dating pool is essentially much, much narrower than it was when they were 20 (or even throughout their 20s). A lot of marriageable guys are taken at that point. I could see a variety of reasons that you'd get more overt questions about money from 38+ women:

1. They are total duds (hey, they haven't been chosen by a partner yet, either).
2. They are gunshy because they are worried about the quality of guys who haven't been married at 40 and need extra reassurance.
3. They have successful careers and want an equal partner and a financially savvy man who isn't deeply in debt or living in his parents' basement. 
4. They have experienced the hell of living with a wasteful partner and don't want to get stuck like that.
5. They don't want to beat around the bush and find out slowly what your situation is because they don't have much time left if they want to have children.

So, I don't think the fact that 38+ women are asking about money makes the golddiggers in all but the first scenario. But if you're attracting/dating a lot of 38+ women who are duds (explicit questions about net worth rather than, say, tactfully asking about your job and general lifestyle), then you might want to ask yourself why. Certainly, I'd be asking myself why I could only attract naive 20-year-olds or gold-digging 40-year-olds if I were you. [/quote]

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