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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I am that girl that gets stared at everywhere she goes and all I can tell you OP is that there are bad parts.

The crappiest being the weird jealousy thing that often seems to come out in female friendships.  Even my relationship with my mom to some extent, and my siblings.

Not to mention no one really wants to be stared at when they're just trying to buy tampons from CVS, get some potato chips from the store cause they had a crappy day, whatever.

No one wants to feel vulnerable because they have male eyes on them everywhere they go.  No one wants to constantly feel like they stick out like a sore thumb, like they dont fit in, even if they know the stares are for an ostensibly "good thing".

No one wants to get repeatedly hit on by friend's boyfriends, solicited for threesomes by those same boyfriends, and generally treated like some sexual receptacle first and foremost.

THere are advantages, of course.  Like knowing if you really like a boy you can get his attention.

But truly, a ton of bad things come along with it.  First and foremost being the constant sense that youre somehow "betraying" your female friends and family by just existing, that youre stealing attention from them that you have no desire to take.[/quote]

Fantastic post.  My BFF in high school was a stunner.  Like, literally guys would stop in their tracks on the street and turn around and just stare.  I obviously had many struggles with feeling ugly and invisible, but I was so lucky that my parents made me feel good about who I was (at least when I wasn't out socially with her and feeling invisible!)  I always felt like she had it made, but her family allowed her to perceive her greatest asset to be her looks, and she ended up just feeling like she didn't need to finish school or do much else but look beautiful and the world would lay down at her feet.  Aspects of the world did lay down at her feet, but she was (and still is) an incredibly smart, funny, creative person, and it's like she lost ALL of her confidence in those attributes and just depended on her looks.  I think she could have done such fantastic things in her life, but I'd say she was unhappy until she was 40 and turned over a new leaf.  I think she's very happy now, but who would have guessed the drop dead gorgeous girl in high school would spend most of her adult life (so far) unhappy and unfulfilled?

PP you're lucky you have perspective, and hopefully healthy friends and family who remind you what's great about you that is not abotu your looks.[/quote]

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