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Well since you asked. I have tried that. We have tried that. But it didn't really work. I want rough sex. I want a confident, sexy man to push me around a little bit. I want it to be a little risky and daring. I want to be thrown off guard. I want to be *into* it, you know? The kind of sex we have is so predictable and mechanical and way too sweet. He is always trying to kiss me during which I hate. I don't know how to articulate this but it's like he is way too polite and PC to do what I want. It was such an awkward failure.

Now do you see what I mean??[/quote]

You said he can sense something is wrong.  If you tell him, again at a therapist's office where it can be in a safe neutral place, that this is what you want, but you know he find's it uncomfortable, then you two could probably work it out from there.  He's not comfortable with what you want, but maybe he'd be willing to try harder too (and you do too) if he thinks it will make you happier with your sex life.

Have you had this kind of "rougher" sex previously, or is this some fantasy?  I have had these kinds of fantasy, too, but I think reality is much different, and I know that if it really happened I wouldn't like it.[/quote]

Yes I am thinking of someone in particular from my past. He was my last SO before I met my husband. He didn't want to get married though and still isn't.[/quote]

So you are willing to blow up your children's lives because you used to have have hot sex with someone who doesn't want to marry you? Imagine trying to have that conversation with your adult children when they ask why you divorced their Dad. Imagine how much hot sex you will be halving when you are married to a guy who does no work around the house. Will you have the energy to do everything around the house and have hot sex?

Please look into tantric sex weekend  or try to take a BDSM class with DH. [/quote]

Where do you find these tantric sex and BDSM classes? I would love to do this with my DH.[/quote]

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