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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]This is pretty horrible. I hope you get anger management, OP. There's a difference between "You need to follow through with commitments / treat others nicely / etc" and "You're an a$$hole." [/quote]

LOLZ. OP here. Got teens?  I didn't shout it. I said something much more appropriate. Are you on meds? Just curious. Because I am seriously willing to bet that MOST parents of teens have felt this way at some point after witnessing an amazing chain of boneheaded behavior in a single morning. And if you have honestly never felt this way, I would love to know why. [/quote]

+1
We're human.  Children don't need to see perfection, they need to see real life.[/quote]

+2 it is just as harmful to never yell or get frustrated with your children as it is to always yell at them at the drop of a hat.

Eventually somebody... a boss, a coach, a friend, etc are going to yell at them. They need to learn how to deal with this. [/quote] This.  Our role as parents is to help them prepare for life.  People will get frustrated with them. People will express that frustration.  They need to know that people will notice if they are acting like assholes and they don't have their shit together and not everyone is going to pussyfoot around like the perfect DCUM moms.  [/quote]

You get an A+ for rationalization of poor parenting behavior. Yes, eventually someone will become frustrated and yell at our children; however, raising resilient children doesn't mean we need to yell at them and curse them. In fact, they'll be more confident and resilient if they're feeling secure and not having to wonder if the erratic temper of a parent is going to erupt on yet another day.[/quote]

NP here. A couple things....
1. You're equating a one-off scolding for cause (what OP thought on an exceptionally bad Monday but didn't even do) with persistent and "erratic" yelling that's "going to erupt on yet another day." These are not the same things. Nobody here is defending the parents with horrible tempers who make it a frequent habit to erupt "erratically" and abusively for no good reason.
2. You're equating "feeling secure" with having perfect parents who never yell. These two things are not necessarily linked either.  
3. You don't understand resiliency. Resiliency doesn't come from the *absence* of confrontation and change. In fact, how can we say somebody is "resilient" if s/he never faces tests and trials? (In fact, resiliency may be partly genetic, but I digress.)
4. You never.ever.let.go.  Even after you admitted that OP thought but didn't say these things, and that this is "different," you're still here fighting a different battle, anonymously instead of in person, of course. Do you think that's an aggression problem of some sort?
[/quote] I concur.[/quote]

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