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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]He's homeless and you are insensitive [/quote]

I'm not the OP but I have dealt with a similar situation.  I'd been in therapy for several years before faced with a situation like OP's and I spent a long time working with my individual therapist and the relationship counseler DH and I were seeing.  I'm glad that I had them to help me work to get to a healthy decision rather than DCUM.  Like OP, DH and I allowed my parent (my mother) to live with us.  My mother joined us in a counseling session where we laid out the conditions and expectations for her living with us.  As my siblings predicted, my mother didn't live up to her part and we required her to leave.  My siblings and I paid for 6 months (in advance) for an apartment for her.  She was eventually evicted and homeless.  I didn't cause her homelessness - I had only delayed it.

You and other posters who insist OP is doing the wrong thing by not allowing her father to stay with her really have no clue how difficult it is to get to the point OP is.  I do.  I also support OP in whatever decision she makes.  If having her father live with her threatens OP's stability, her father needs to go.  You can't help someone who won't help themselves.  It's a heartbreaking decision but, for me (and I suspect OP), it's the correct one.  Hugs, OP.[/quote]

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