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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote]My, my, PP. There are no polite words to describe you. You weren't responding to me, but let me tell you that most people live through such hardships and experiences that they grow in compassion and wisdom. 
Of course elderly people can't change or help themselves. Of course some of them are freeloaders. And yet, despite all this, most people would choose to shelter or otherwise care for their own parents.

I have personal experience with this. My grandmother, a self-centered, ignorant and deeply prejudiced woman, who had repeatedly told my mother that she was unwanted and unloved, and who had neglected most of her children, went bankrupt through her own fault and SUED HER CHILDREN FOR MONEY. Her children, my mother included, were declared not at fault during the trial, but still chose to pay for their mother's care until her death. Because she was their own mother and not *all* bad. [/quote]

Oh, sure, most people have hardships and experiences from which they grow in wisdom and compassion.  However, most people don't grow up with mentally ill and/or abusive family members.  Even fewer people overcome the legacy of growing up in those environments to break the cycle of abuse and lack of treatment.  The situation with OP's father is a threat to OP's family life.  She's making healthy and appropriate choices to ensure the health, safety and well being of her family.  Who are you to judge.  I certainly wouldn't hold your family up as a positive example.  Perhaps your mother and her siblings were in a position to support their mother.  OP is not.  You really do have limited experience - and imagination.[/quote]

+ A MILLION.  I think most of the people posting on this thread have absolutely no idea what OP is dealing with  - and good for them.  They are blessed to have not experienced this kind of turmoil.  OP, I am so sorry and I get it.  [/quote]

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