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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I see the meanies are out tonight. OP's gripe was not unreasonable. Just because she doesn't want non-family to show up on vacation does not make her a bitch. And, no. I'm not OP.[/quote]

Yes, OP's gripe is completely unreasonable.  In her own words, "Well, a couple weeks ago, I was asked how I felt about my SIL's parents coming down for a couple of days to hang out with us on this vacation, while staying at a hotel..."

She was asked [b]point blank[/b] [i]weeks ago[/i] and [b]didn't[/b] speak up.  She has only herself to blame and is letting the small change to the vacation plan take complete focus.  Turn the Hoover on high, OP and suck it up.[/quote]

You have a point. It did sound like she was put on the spot though - it didn't sound like so much like a conversation to feel her out as a bid for approval for plans that had already been made. I can understand being caught off guard with something like that, especially if the family MO is peacemaking at the expense of comfort.

And I also sympathize with people who are oblivious to why they don't belong on certain outings or get-togethers. My BILs parents are super irritating and came along on a family vacation where the only ones who wanted them along were my sister and her family. Incredibly forward and familiar with all of us even though they had only just met some of us and really poor social cues overall. My sister and her husband only had one vacation and wanted to spend it with everyone (even though we had originally planned it otherwise, they put us in the position of having to choose between time with all of them or else they would sit it out).

Sometimes you just want to get together with your most familiar people - it's so much easier to have a vacation if it's not around what feels like company who never leave.[/quote]

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