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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]You are getting some idiotic advice in this thread.  You are not married because the guy you have wasted your life with doesn't want to marry you, okay?  It's that simple.  You should have left as soon as that was clear, instead of compromising your life goal for him.

Before I got married, I dated men who wouldn't quite commit.  The key is to throw the garbage in the bin, instead of trying to hold on.  One guy I dated for four months and when he still kept his silly little games, I stopped returning his calls.  Another guy I really, really liked and he seemed perfect in every way, but he kept saying negative things about marriage and had a history of cheating on his girlfriends.  As hard as it was, I dropped him too in a matter of months.  The last guy I dated before I met my now DH worked very long hours and used them as an excuse why we didn't see each other all that much.  I was really into him and when we saw each other, he was really into me.  But he did not give me the attention I needed.  I dumped him too after three months.  A month later, I met my current husband and he was just wild about me.  He would have died on the cross for me and HE begged me to marry him.  That's what I'm talking about.

See, it's not that other women don't meet commitmentphobes and other time wasters.  It's not that we're prettier or better or give up anal sex (as some repulsive beast suggested earlier in the thread).  It is that we know how to move on to the next quickly until we find the guy who fits us and adores us exactly as we need.
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I can see dumping someone after only a few months due to incompatibility issues.  But dumping them after just a few months because they are not ready to talk marriage yet?  No.  I'm a woman and that would have been WAY too early for me too.  Some of us just take longer to think marriage.  I don't think that makes us defective or commitment phobes.  Just really careful.

Now the folks who obviously are happier single/unhitched and have no desire to be exclusive with anyone - yeah, with them you just have to see the writing on the wall.[/quote]

PP here. You misread my post.  It was not that he was not ready to "talk" marriage. He had plenty to say about marriage and none of it was good. Women need to really hear a man and take what he is saying seriously. A man who has negative, selfish views on marriage is not going to suddenly become better because you wasted years on him. You might've waited before dumping that guy, but you would've been wasting your own time as many women do. It is almost 10 years later now and that guy is still not married. He has been in multiple long-term relationships with women who have tried everything and driven themselves nuts trying to marry him. [/quote]

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