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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I do think he'll be a good dad - I think a lot of his drinking now is tied to boredom, he really has[b] no hobbies or healthy outlets for stress[/b].[/quote]

Do you realize that, when they're not being a lot of work and stressful on a relationship, newborns are very, very boring? He's not going to stop being an alcoholic just so he can sit and gaze at his newborn with clearer eyes. Your expectations are so starry-eyed and so wrong. If alcoholics often stopped drinking for their kids, we'd only hear about childless alcoholics, and that's just not the case.[/quote]

+1.  And guess what-- newborns are also very, very stressful!  As is being a parent.  If he is having trouble coping with stress now, it's only going to get worse.

What exactly is the plan-- for him to quit alcohol the moment you go into labor, and be in withdrawal while you have a newborn?

I'm glad you're acknowledging your denial, OP.  Do a freeze all cycle if you must, but Al-Anon and marriage counseling are what you really need.[/quote]

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