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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I can relate a little bit. I was a heavy kid-adolescent and pretty much always struggled with my weight. My dd has an effortlessly slim and athletic body. She's also good at a lot of things and I never was. She's growing up in a house with very happy parents and she will have more opportunities for classes and camps that I didn't have because we were poor and I had a single mom. So one hand I do feel a bit of envy for the ease her life will have that mine didn't.

But she will have her own struggles, and just because my childhood was harder in my eyes won't make her problems less important to her. I also worry about her growing into a too-pretty teen. I kind of like that DH and I were both geeks and didn't sleep around a lot as a result. I worry that popular attractive kids end up in the drinking/drug/promiscuous sex crowds like they did at my high school. Not that it's a hard and fast rule, [b]but I hope that my kids grow into a self confident persona with a dash of geeky nerdom that will keep them in check[/b]. [/quote]

That's good that you can think that through like that PP.  On that last bolded part, I'm sure you know this but just worth saying anyway: self confidence and good decision-making comes mostly from being in families with good communication.  So do your thing, be the best parent you can be (which it sounds like you're doing), but if it's not in your nature to talk about sensitive, awkward things like sex and safety and relationship decisionmaking and peer pressure, you and your husband and everyone should educate yourselves about age-appropriate conversations about all of these.  It's not just up to their personalities... it's also about equipping them with a thought process and foundation on which to make better decisions.

OP has presented a sensitive dynamic, and even though many have said they can't imagine feeling that way, and that's understandable too, but it's far far more common than so many of you may imagine.  The best thing is naming it and trying to work through it.  But don't let it sit, cuz it will fester, not go away.[/quote]

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