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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]This is a weird feeling to have. I adore my daughter, am on her side 100%, love her to death, etc. And I'm very, very proud of her. But it's so embarrassing and weird to admit that to an extent I also envy her.

My daughter is beautiful. Just out-and-out gorgeous. When we walk places, guys stare at her and she nonchalantly accepts these tributes to her beauty with the indifference of someone who has received them her whole life. She has guys fighting over her in high school.

I was the very definition of Plain Jane growing up. I didn't get asked out by anyone until I was 28 and by some weird miracle met DH when I was 33. I've always bought my own drinks, never had a man stare at me or compliment me, lol. None of it is a big deal and I certainly never wasted my energy thinking about it after a certain age, but seeing my DD's life makes me understand how comparatively lacking my own girlhood was. I do feel a certain sense of envy that this is something I could never experience.

I want to know I'm not the only parent who goes through this weird and guilt-inducing experience of envying their child?[/quote]

Envy is about your emotional needs not being met. If it weren't about your daughter, it could be something else. But since it's your daughter, it will definitely make you feel guilt.  I don't mean that in a bad way. I mean I totally get what you are feeling.

I agree with the other poster who mentioned some counseling. There are only two ways to get over envy. Tear the other person down or build yourself up. And I know you don't want to do the former.   We don't get everything we want in life, and I can see how you feel wistful for missed experiences.  Try to refocus on all you do have. [/quote]

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