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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][b]The good person, happy person, productive person is what I care about most. Part of achieving that means I  highly values school.[/b] But why can't a kid have a passion for a hobby? In this case sports?

I can see if his grades went from Bs to Ds, you might have to figure out a different mix of school and sports, but if that's not happening, a person's joy matters, too. If your son loves something, and you can encourage this passion, it sounds like a wonderful thing. [/quote]

I agree with you about supporting hobbies kids are passionate about & certainly about a person's joy mattering.

I really don't understand the bolded phrase, however. I know plenty of good people who are happy & productive adults who hated school & got poor grades. I also know several immoral --oftentimes miserable -- jerks & a few non productive burnouts who were top students.[/quote]

Happy people can also be decent students.   But I value school because of the rapidly growing chasm between low income and comfortable.  It will take a LOT for our kids' generation to be OK financially.  And I'm not talking upper middle class or wealthy.  Just OK.  And to me that requires success in school so that the child can go on to get additional education or skilled training.[/quote]

My child is smart and goes to a very good private school.  He has the advantages of being raised in an upper middle class to affluent home with all of the cultural implications attached (speaks well, has good manners, etc). It's not fair, to be clear, but I really don't worry if he is in the top or bottom half of that arguably 1% experience.  I do worry about things like grit and character which I work hard on instilling.   Many of the very people obsessed with how their child is doing in school are similarly situated.  [/quote]

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