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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Seeing someone you think is attractive is normal.

Fantasizing about how, when, where with executional details is a slippery slope towards readiness to have an affair.  Affairs tend to be crimes of opportunity.  Don't go there.  You seem like a nice person, so it would be a shame to see you posting months from now " I don't know how it happened," after your marriage imploded.

Good luck, hopefully your reaction is the former so give yourself a break.

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I agree, but I think there are 3 or 4 levels before affair.

1. He's hot (could be a friend's DH or a celeb or even a perfect stranger). Purely physical reaction. Normal, healthy even.
2. He's hot and I could just imagine doing x, y, z with him if I wasn't married. Normal. Unhealthy if obsessive.
3. He's hot and I wish I was with him instead of my DH. Not normal.
4. He's  hot and I don't trust myself around him. Dangerous.

Once I got to #4 before I had to cut off a relationship. I miss my friend, but it would best for everyone involved.[/quote]

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