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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]You are NOT happily married because if you were you wouldn't even entertain the thought of having sex with another man. Save your thrill down there for your husband slutty.[/quote]

I disagree.  I'm happily married and have had the same feelings that the Op described.  I also see the guy much more frequently than 3 times a year and know he has feelings for me.  This is probably bad advice but it's worked for us - I've acknowledged to the guy that I have feelings for him but would never act on them.  It gets the elephant out of the room and you then have told him straight out that you wouldn't cheat with him.  It's safe for me but only if you really think you would act on it.[/quote]

As a man, you sent mixed messages. You left the door open for him to continue pursuit of you. Even if you don't 'intend' on cheating, you certainly left that end point dangling. Classic manipulation. [/quote]

I'm the PP that you quoted and you are right.  I didn't really realize it at the time but I think I was egging it on for attention and the whole thing blew up.  No affair, but no more friendship.  Just a 6 month blip of way too much energy expended on a guy who wanted me to blow up my entire family for a ONS with him.  Someone of strong character wouldn't want you to do this, and this is definitely not him.  I appreciate my DH even more these days, and have learned my lesson.  Please stay strong - one day soon you will see that it's totally not worth it.  And thanks PP for your honest perspective![/quote]

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