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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]DC asked me today, "Why is everything so much easier for (sibling)? He is better than me at everything."

Specific ways to respond to this?[/quote]

Engage him in a conversation about HIM and his strengths.

You:  You think?  What makes you say that?

DS:  He does better at ABC, can XYZ faster, is great at QRS, etc.

You:  Hmmm.  What are you good at?

DS:  I don't know.  Nothing.

You:  [smile]  Really?  How about one thing?

DS:  Seriously.  Nothing.  He's better than me at EVERYTHING.

YOU:  [gently] Forget about him for a second.  What would [DS's best friend] say you're good at?

DS:  Maybe EFG?

YOU:  And how about your teacher?  If she had to pick one thing, what would she say?

DS:  DEF.

YOU:  What do you think?  Do you like those things?  Which one is easier for you?  Which one do you like better?  What else do you like doing?  Is there something else you want to practice?  etc.

Once you've engaged him fully on the topics of HIS strengths and interests, you may be done.  Or he may bring it around to his brother.  Personally, I would not get into a discussion/argument about whether his brother is better at things, or worse, picking out things his brother is not good at.  I'd focus on the fact that all of us have things we like to do but have to work at to get better.  And maybe give a quick example from your own life (taking the focus away from the sibling) before throwing it back to him to think of something that used to be hard for him but is now easy because he practiced / worked hard.

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