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For the inattentive child, those things happen very infrequently. In one day maybe one of those things is done well, two things go desperately wrong to where the entire family has to get involved to help solve the problems changing the entire day leaving the inattentive child upset, and the other child has a great day where they try hard at everything and enjoy it all and get compliments from other parents except for when they have to amuse themselves while parents deal with the other child or help out themselves. It's not that there aren't compliments to give the other child, there are just fewer of them.[/quote]

My inattentive child does a couple things that other children would find easy every day. I recognize when my high schooler ties his shoes because it's an ongoing issue.

My children who don't struggle with attention aren't rolling in praise, because it's no big deal for them to remember to tie their shoes and I don't even mention it. I think if you truly feel what you've said, it's either because you're over-praising your non-inattentive children, or not recognizing where your inattentive child is putting forth effort that should be recognized.

I have a child to whom everything seems to come easily. Much of it does come easily. That child doesn't get praise for things that come easily. That child gets recognition for when she's worked hard on something. Her perfect grades are not something she has worked hard for. Her helping a friend through a tough time is something that she has worked hard at, because she tends to be a little selfish. My inattentive child would give his friends the shirt off his back, so I'm not as likely to praise him for helping out a friend. I'd praise him remembering to go get another shirt after he gave away the one he was wearing![/quote]

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