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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Oh and to the PP, even today, even with an autopsy, I never got a death certificate. Most states and countries don't require provision of any official documentation. If a baby is stillborn, it's possible you'll still get neither a birth nor a death certificate. I know my parents never got either. If this was more than 20 years ago, the attitude on stillbirth was this: get over it, forget it, and move on. If they don't want to talk, you have to respect that boundary. It's a traumatic thing and[b] if I don't want to discuss my experience with stillbirth, it's up to me[/b].[/quote]

Sorry, but I respectfully disagree when it comes to surviving siblings, especially if they have questions.  Would you refuse to talk about this with your children if they asked?  I can't understand that nor can I understand how this is helpful to anyone.  There is plenty of evidence that it is very damaging to siblings who have lost a sibling and grown up in a family where the dead sibling is never acknowledged or discussed with them, and the details of that sibling's death are shrouded in secrecy.[/quote]

Well, my parents did explain about my sibling. In their case there was no explanation. The baby died. I've asked for more, once, since my daughter was stillborn but that's all they know and they've made it clear they don't want to talk about it more than that. If I have a second child, I do intend to tell them about their big sister but really, once they've hit adulthood and they've understood what happened, I shouldn't have to go over it every day just because they don't believe me. That's the other part that bugs me about the OP--the parents say stillbirth, it's disrespectful to not take them at their word.[/quote]

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