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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]We're I in your shoes I would propose the following:

You keep your house. 
You move in his, but agree that if something happens to him and the kids are over 21, then you will move out to wherever you want at that point, but you leave his house.

He puts "$x" per month aside for you, or an insurance policy where you are the beneficiary.

You are going to be negatively impacted by his tax rates, for example. Your combined taxes will mean where you used to get a refund, now you personally might not.

Things like this matter.

Everything earned going forward are joint...but you both need attys and an account to work out "fair" ahead of time.

You could end up married to him longer than his first wife. [/quote]

Thank you so much for this post! It's practical and provides a BTDT perspective.

I really like your idea and plan to give it very serious consideration as it allows DH to still make provisions for me while leaving the property to his children. As you can imagine, it's not easy to just pick up and leave "his" house/our marital home and relocate if something were to happen to him. As you said, we could grow old together and 30+ years later, who wants to be in their 70's and forced to move from the home you shared with your spouse for 30 years just because you weren't there the first 20? (Of course, by that time a lot of dynamics would have changed, but...sooooo many things to consider.) Ain't love grand?

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