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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Men will continue to marry because it's their only avenue for having children and enjoying uninterrupted access to them. Women control procreation and don't need a steady male presence in their life to get a child. But for a man who wants to have children in his life, the key is to find a cooperating female, since there are no egg banks for men, and surrogate parenthood/single father adoptions aren't common or accessible to many.

For as long as marriage is the condition of children, men will have to marry.  [/quote]

Can't believe I just read this BS. Men don't need the security of marriage to have kids...women do![/quote]
Reality shows otherwise - how many single fathers by choice do you see?[/quote]

Bingo.

But let's not turn this into men versus women.  The fact is that the [b]damaged men[/b] posting in this thread are not the ones any quality woman is looking to for marriage.  I briefly dated a man like the goofballs in this thread.  So worried about his money being taken in a divorce.  I dumped him quickly, moved on to my now-husband, and am now happily married with children.  I also earn a lot as a big law attorney, as does my husband in sales.  Meanwhile, the years have not been kind to the [b]douchebag[/b] I dumped.  I kept in touch with him because he refused to stop e-mailing me periodically.  Well, he lost his high income when he was laid off during the recession.  He is now in his 50s, going back to school, and painfully single.  [b]He has also lost the good looks he once had -- hair is thin, waistline has spread, wrinkles have set in from years of drinking too much and being bitter towards women, lol.[/b]  Recently, he told me that he wondered what his life might have been like if he had married me and if his kids were mine.  I changed the subject because the thought of being married to him was too horrible to dwell on.  This is real.  The 50s are lonely for most people, talk less of those who frittered away their prime years paranoidly guarding their money from an imagined horde of gold diggers.  [/quote]

Male attorney here.  This is why my only rule for marriage is no lawyers.  Female lawyers are an especially toxic combination of entitlement and insecurity, dripping throughout this thread.  I'm assuming you're at least in your mid 40's, and if you were really "happily married", you wouldn't spend your time gloating over the problems of others.[/quote]

LOL.  The hit dog will holler, as the saying goes.  The paunchy middle-age men are really turning out to prove my post right.   I mean here you are: a single man who is supposed to be out there dating this bevy of beauties who are no doubt beating down your door, lol.  Instead, here you are on a perfectly good weeknight trying and failing to tell me off on DCUM.  Clearly, you are really killing it with the ladies.  A full social calendar you have there.  I am in my 30s and I still have my looks and waistline.  There was an age gap between me and the lonely loser I posted about. I think his situation is hilarious.  It is all of his own making.  While he still had his looks and virility, he was contemptuous of women just like you bitter closet cases here are.  Now, no self-respecting woman with options would ever give him a second look and he is full of regrets, Cialis, and antidepressants.  He makes a good business contact and has sent me clients, so he is not all bad.  But this situation is all his fault and I have not one bit of sympathy for him as I enjoy my husband and children and he spends the holidays alone.[/quote]

In my 30's also.  And I shudder to think what kind of man ended up married to you...

And btw, being in on a Wednesday night is pretty standard, especially since I have plans for tomorrow and Friday nights.

Nobody thinks you're actually happy.   Happy people don't resent others like you do.[/quote]

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