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A man who wants to be a full time father can do so using a surrogate. Gay men do it - I know of a couple of instances  where this has happened one of them with his partner has two children and the other has one. It really is not a huge obstacle. And even the cost of surrogacy can be minimized with a surrogate from another country. Marriage is not a prerequisite for a man to derive the benefits and satisfaction of being a father.

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Oh don't be silly.  The options you cite are neither cheap nor available to regular Joes.  I too know a married gay couple who had twins via surrogacy. It cost them a hundred thousand dollars.  Surrogacy in other countries is neither cheap nor easy, and comes with its own set of troubles. Undoubtedly, some men - the rich, the determined and the very liberal - will be able to use them.  Most men won't, though.  And these options are in fact, almost insurmountable obstacles, especially compared with the amazing ease and low cost of sperm banks and anonymous sex, so easily available to women.  And so we come to this, again: fatherhood, for most men, requires a cooperating partner of the opposite sex.  Motherhood, for women, does not. And this is why most men who want to be full-time fathers will have to pay the price of marrying or stay childless. [/quote]

If your point is that it is easier for a single woman to have a relationship as a mother than a single man would as a father you will have no argument from me. But the reality is that there are lots of single men who father children and could have a relationship with their child if they so choose. The courts would enforce the rights of a father in that role and that would be without having to marry the mother. If you are not aware of this then you are ignorant of the law.

Marital status is not a prerequisite for the courts to recognize and award paternal rights to a man.[/quote]

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