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I think you and many other women who post on these type of threads often fail to realize that they too might actually be or had been overly sensitive and how incredibly emotionally draining it can be to deal with as a mother over the course of a childhood to young adulthood.  This is not something I would have understood myself until now that I am in the thick of it.
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PP, when I was a child, my mother would not have described me as sensitive.  I did everything I could avoid letting her see how much she hurt me.  She would have described me as fat, lazy, obstinate, willful, loud, inappropriate, ugly, unbecoming, unladylike, poor decision maker, poor chooser of friends, etc.  She saw me as the one and only thing that was wrong with her otherwise picture perfect life.  She never had an ounce of empathy for me because I didn't deserve it.

My child is somewhat sensitive.  He will always have my unconditional love, support and empathy.  [b]Regarding the shoes, I would have said something along the lines of, "Oh, honey, I know you love those shoes, but the backyard is muddy and mud is not good for shoes."[/b] [/quote]

Even when I say things like this in a super sweet, sing song voice, my DD this would still have a crestfallen look on her face and a very quiet little "oh" and then she would go change.  BTDT.  This is the reason I sought therapy for her because I just didn't think this was in the normal emotional range and the therapist confirmed it. (and actually we got a second and third opinion and all three said the same)

BTW my DD has the same problems with others not just me. It's just that I am much more patient and concerned then others.  My DH and other family members lose their patience with her very quickly.  She has a very difficult time making and keeping friends.    
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