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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]op if you cheated, there may be no going back.  Some people just can't forgive that.  Short of that, if you can get her to remember why she fell in love with you in the first place, you might be alright.  Get back to being that guy.  Also put sex on the back burner.  Actually take it off the stove for now.  If/when she has the hots for you again she'll let you know.

Are you out of shape? Get to the gym before she and the kids are up in the mornings and be back in time to help out.  She will appreciate that you are working to better yourself without sacrificing family time.

How is your personal hygiene? Get your shit together on that front.  Being clean and smelling nice is important.

If your clothes are old, get new ones, including socks and underwear.  Dress like you are trying to impress women; either it will help with her or you'll be ahead of the game when you are back in the game.

Are you pulling your weight around the house?  If not, get to it. If you are, take on some of her chores without asking her.  Yeah you shouldn't have to, but you are trying to get out of the doghouse, so do it.

Fix some shit around the house.  It doesn't have to be a big deal.  Install shelving to organize the garage or pantry or put in a new light fixture or ceiling fan.  Anything involving tools. Women seem to like that for some reason.

Do you show her non sexual physical affection? When you get home give her a big hug and squeeze and a kiss on the cheek without copping a feel or rubbing your junk on her.  Do this every day, even if she gives you the cold shoulder.  Eventually she will soften.

Ask her how her day was and listen to what she says.  Ask questions she can't answer with a yes or no.

Do something the kids love, just you and them.  Mom gets some alone time and gets to see you being a good dad as well.  Plus the kids love some time with just dad.  Win win for everybody.

What are her interests / hobbies?  If she is a SAHM, take a day off from work, let her sleep in and get the kids dressed / lunches made and off to school for her and make a day of doing something she really enjoys.  Don't just spring it on her either because although surprises are nice in theory, some women (like my DW) would be more stressed than pleased because of things possibly going wrong.  If she works outside the home, ask her to take the day off w you and do the same thing.

Spend quality time with her, and spend quality time with her and the kids.  Forget about what you want for a while, because it really doesn't matter if you get your immediate needs met but ultimately lose the relationship.

Don't be emotionally clingy or needy, or sexually clingy or needy.  Project a strong, confident, independent attitude. Even a bit sexually aloof would be good, but again show nonsexual physical affection without overdoing it.

Also give her a good night kiss and tell her you love her.  Every. Night.

This will likely take months, but if you really want to salvage things you have to give it your all.

In sum, become somebody she would want to date, and then date her.  If you can put aside your pride and do that, maybe she will fall back in love with you.[/quote]
I've read this on the self help sites. Didn't work for me. [/quote]

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