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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]OP, I've read your update and I still think it's really weird that you're setting up a group family vacation for mostly your side of the family, including your ILs, and then expecting your ILs to hang back with your family. Your MIL is reacting normally to what you're set up. If you want solo time with your husband, then create a different set up.[/quote]

It sounds to me like OP had a vacation with her family.  [b]But the in-laws who only see their only child 3-4 times per year, went on this vacation to see their child one more time during the year. [/b] After all, they're friends with her parents, too.  [b]But they want to maximize the time they get to spend with their only child while on vacation[/b] and their DIL wants to cut off some of [b]that precious time they have to spend with their son.[/b]  They only see him 10-15 days a year and she wants to take a day trip without them taking away one of those days.

OP, if you are going to continue vacations like this, then you have to plan for only short periods of recharging (I get that you're introverted and need quiet alone time to recharge) during that week.  So, an hour trip to the coffee shop with your husband or a quiet walk without anyone else.  You take those, even if it's once/day and you make it private by not elaborating what you are doing "Bob and I are going out for a break; we'll be back soon."  You take your break and come back.  A day trip is really just not polite in this situation.  If you want to have some alone time with your husband, come back some other weekend during the year just the two of you and you can have 2-3 days of that alone time.  But don't do it when you go on a shared vacation especially when your in-laws are involved.  You know they want to spend as much time as possible with you two, so plan accordingly.[/quote]

I agree with a lot of what you're saying but the bolded part makes it sound like OP's DH is still a child and not a grown man. At some point all parents need to be able to detach a little. Being an inly child shouldn't become some undue burden of visitation with lonely parents.[/quote]

I'm sorry, but 2 weeks out of 52 or 15 days out of 365 doesn't sound like they are overly attached.  There are some people who live in the same town with their parents and see them every weekend.  They don't live close, they see each other 3-4 times a year, once for a week, the others for a few days.  So they want to maximize the time they have together, they want to spend time with their kid.  Some families see each other 30-40 days out of a year and most people wouldn't say they can't detach.[/quote]

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