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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Wow, this got hijacked by the skating safety discussions. OP, I agree with you that a skating party as they presented it is dumb - because clearly the party was 100 percent about Birthday Princess doing HER favorite activity and the heck with whether her guests would enjoy it or feel uncertain and therefore unhappy. That just is further confirmation of what the exceptionally vulgar "cash only" request tells you in the first place: This family is all about doing things that please them, not about making sure anyone else has a good time or feels comfortable. Good manners is about making others comfortable so they can in turn relax and enjoy themselves. It was very bad manners to choose an activity where most guests other than the host child probably were novices. If the family had set it up as a "skating lesson" kind of party where an adult teacher from the rink were showing some basics, that might be different. But it sounds to me as if the birthday girl just wanted to skate so everyone else should too, regardless of whether it would be fun. I bet the girl spent that party skating circles around everyone else and the guest kids just clung to the wall.[/quote]

What????? You make it sound like a skating party is some kind of torture. Most kids have a good time. Thats why skating parties are so common. Yeah, the birthday girl picked HER favorite activity. Its her birthday. Do you think my son who hates sports enjoyed going to all those birthday parties that involved sports? He put on his best attitude and went because it wasn't his birthday.

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Must be a function of where you live or what your kids' friends are into, but around here nobody does skating parties and never has. Lots of laser tag parties, but not skating (ice or roller) though there is a rink pretty close by.... I know my kid would have been leery of a skating party in kindergarten, which is the age the OP mentions. At older ages, sure, that might have been fun.

And as for "it's her birthday" so she should have exactly what she wants: The PP was talking about teaching kids to have a little consideration for their friends and not just think about themselves and their own favorite things to do. Like another PP said -- the birthday girl's parents could have guided her to make a different choice and that would have just been the nicer thing to do.[/quote]

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