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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]My husband had wanted to do a vacation with his family.  I really didn't want to go but, after over 5 years of him talking about it, I finally agreed to one.  It certainly wasn't the best vacation ever.  Whenever I got annoyed or stressed, I grabbed a book and went and sat on the porch by myself.  Or I went for a run.  Or I insisted we needed more milk and ran to the store just to get away. I actually ended up doing a lot of that.

But my husband was really happy and appreciative.  The kids spent time with relatives they don't see very often. My inlaws were very grateful.   And I'll admit it wasn't all bad.   Since then, he hasn't insisted we do another family vacation  (although I'm guessing in a few years it will come up again) and I got to pick what we did the next year.

Basically, the fact that my husband and kids were so happy outweighed the negatives for me.  [b]Not that I'd do a vacation with his family every year (HELL NO!).  But for me, one week every 6-7 years was one of those compromises/sacrifices you have to do in a marriage.[/b]

I don't see why, if you agree to go, you can't take some time off by yourself if there are too many people around, or just tell your inlaws you aren't participating in whatever it is they are scheduling.  [/quote]

I would do it if it were every 6-7 years, no problem.  Unfortunately, in our case (not OP), it is every year - and we have VERY little vacation time.  On top of that, the ILs exclude DH when we are there, their family dynamics suck, MIL does the charade for bragging rights (or bitching rights - so you can't win, really), they barely speak to each other, and if I want to sit around and read, I can do that at home for free.

But every 6-7 years would be no problem. [/quote]

Given the circumstances you described, I would choose not to go.[/quote]

Same here. Every several years is fine. Every year? Hell to the no. If he still wants to go, then he can manage the kids on his own. Hell, the grandparents don't want to see you anyway, so why worry about it? They want to see their grandkids.[/quote]

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