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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]That vacation sounds like heaven to me. I really enjoy huge family gatherings. Instead my in laws would have us sitting in the house staring at us for a week with nothing to  do. [/quote]

I totally agree!  Both my parents and my in-laws are so sedentary and lazy and never want to do anything but sit around and eat and watch TV.  It drives me bonkers!  When my parents come to town, my sister and I try and try to come up with outings b/c we don't want to just sit around.  This sounds so fun, I would love it if my family or in-laws actually thought to plan trips and outings and have people over.  The grass is always greener, right??[/quote]OP here. I'm fine with outings. But, I'm not kidding when I say on the last trip that our days were booked from 9 a.m. until bedtime. For 6 days straight. We have enough of that the rest of the year. I'd like for my kids to have some opportunity for free play with the cousins.[/quote] OP again - in fact, the only good day, IMO, was when one of the other couples' kids got sick and spent most of the day at the doctor (not that I'd wish that on anyone!), and we ended up just chilling by the pool.  But even then, while the kids were completely entertained and happy, my MIL wanted to uproot them all and walk them to the beach. I said no, they are getting along great, they are contained in one space (ages range down to toddler) and I'm happy just sitting in my lounge chair.  Of course, DH was on the iPad, his brother was too, and me and my BIL and SIL sat with the MIL and watched.  But that was my definition of a great day.

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OP, can't you speak to your in-laws prior to the trip and ask if one or two days can be slated for the pool?  Or if you don't like one of the outings or don't feel like going, can't you just say that you and your kids or going to sit this one out?  Are you afraid to speak up?  It's your vacation too, you do have a right to pick and choose what you'd like to participate in.  [/quote] Yes, I could. For a long time, it has felt that the drama that would ensue is not worth opting out. But maybe I need to let go of that and let MIL have her drama to herself.[/quote]

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