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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]OP I know you have financial goals -- we all do -- but I wonder if it's really THAT important to meet all of your goals in one or two years no matter what the sacrifices. Isn't there a happy medium where you can work at a demanding but not insane job for 3-4 years and actually spend some time with your family during that time?  Frankly my biggest worry here isn't your kid, because she'll be fine with caring ILs or good nannies. I wonder how you will possibly stay married after a year of living like this. My marriage is quite strong IMHO, and neither DH nor I have the types of stressful demanding jobs you're describing, but honestly it's still really hard sometimes to juggle new parenthood with two work schedules, new jobs, childcare providers, in-laws, finances, moving, etc. Any one of those things alone would be stressful-- what you've described sounds untenable. A year may seem short but it's more than long enough to tank a marriage.

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This.  The first year or two with kids is tough on a marriage no matter what.  Add the stress of not seeing much of each other, not seeing the kid, etc.

Also if your MIl is against you working, you are going to have some serious conflicts when you go days without seeing your baby.  But on the other hand, having family wake up with the baby and put her to bed will give her some semblance of a family life that multiple nannies can't provide.  The two options on the table seem to be bad ones.[/quote]

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